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5 ways to be fearless

　　By Arianna Huffington

　　1. How to be fearless about speaking out

　　Before women can lead in the world, we have to confront the fear of speaking out. My biggest concern on that front was always my thick Greek accent. But I found that no one pays as much attention to our humiliations as we do. Had I not overcome the fear of being publicly embarrassed, my whole career—in fact my whole life—would have been different.

　　2. How to be fearless about love

　　Many women fear disapproval from the men in their lives. But you can’t be in a satisfying relationship and be looking over your shoulder for approval at the same time. You’ve got to choose. Otherwise, you’ll never be able to reveal your true self in this most intimate of relationships. Indeed, you won’t even know your true self.

　　3. How to be fearless about your looks

　　I still cringe at how self-conscious I was as a teenager. I was freakishly tall, standing 5’10” at age 13, with unruly, curly hair, heavy acne and thick glasses. I feared I would never be attractive to boys. When I got to college, I began dating, yet most of my happiness came not from my relationships but from learning to debate and enjoy the clash of ideas. That was when I understood that the greatest beauty secret is to live out your own passions.

　　4. How to be fearless about your career

　　For many women the fear of failure leads to taking fewer risks and a reluctance to reach for the stars. “Whenever I get a new job,” says Willow Bay, who has been a news anchor for both CNN and MSNBC, “I am afraid that I won’t be able to do it. My husband, Disney CEO Robert Iger, is never afraid in that way. He eagerly embraces new professional challenges without ever questioning his ability to deliver. He dives right in.” The lesson? Excessive fear about the consequences of success, or failure, isn’t going to help us advance.

　　5. How to be fearless about life

　　In 2003 I ran for governor of California. As exhilarating as the experience was, it also had its bruising moments. Arnold Schwarzenegger expressed his displeasure at having to debate a full-throttle female by suggesting that I drink more decaf—a comment that is hard to imagine being addressed to a man. But the biggest lesson I took away from that campaign is that being “in the ring,” fighting the good fight, is always more fulfilling than watching from the sidelines. You may not win the contest, but that doesn’t mean you don’t win.